Sonya Maya, a doctorate student and
bartender, recently took to TikTok to
share the psychology behind why people
cling to toxic relationships.
“Why is it that so many women can’t
stop thinking about that person that won’t
show them reciprocal effort?” .
Maya went on to explain how “nothing creates an
addiction like an inconsistent reward,” a phenomenon
referred to as intermittent reinforcement.
“Think about gambling, slot machines … When
you get a text from this inconsistent person, it
activates dopamine in the brain. Just like if
you’ve been sitting at that slot table for a
while and you finally get a reward”.
This phenomenon is one that Maya says can numb
you to the true quality of a toxic relationship.
So, how’s a gal supposed to, well, stop
being addicted to inconsistent people.
“The first step is going to be understanding
why you’re drawn to them,” Maya says.
“Stop sacrificing energy for that person
that isn’t reciprocal, do some self-reflection
and time will heal,” she added