How do you cope after an abusive marriage? How do you protect your children on the extensive access visits that abusive fathers are now awarded due to shared parental responsibilty? Do you risk losing custody by witholding access to an abusive father. Change the law & allow abused women to cope with divorce!

where is the acknowledgement and support for fathers who are committed to and deeply involved with their families only to have their wives decide they want something or someone else. the system favours the mother as the primary carer and can restrict his involvement and access to those he loves because of that categorisation even though he is often paying the lion share of support.

thankfully in my case my wife (sorry ex-wife) has decided to let me 'play' but every so often she lets me know t

thankfully in my case my wife (sorry ex-wife) has decided to let me 'play' but every so often she lets me know that she's in charge and the only way i can change that is if I drag it through court or force her into a shared arrangement, even though she agrees entirely that that's not the best for the children. she like many women, sees the dads presence as an intrusion. as many as 40% of single mothers actively plan to remove the father as much as possible, and the majority of the others stongly

support the 'mother's know best' concept [so who needs dad?].

i know plenty who make life a misery for their ex-husbands who often just want to see and have involvement in their children's lives. we often find it very difficult to live without those we love and have put so much of our lives into but our input and ideas are often disregarded and dismissed (and often it seems that it's just because it doesn't fit into the 'plan).

separation and divorce is such a lie - there is no happy ending for the vast majority of families, just strife and insecurity for all concerned, especially the children who often never recover from having their world fall apart. seeing the devastation in the eyes of my kids was almost too much for me, and seeing them develop insecurities and withdraw parts of themselves because they got so hurt has been terrible.

if couples put a quarter of the energy and money that is expended in separation and divorce into sorting out their own personal problems or getting help for their delusions/denial they'd have it sorted in half the time. it just seems to be selfishness to me. divorce is a vicious cycle and we should counter it with education and counseling services from a young age in relationship building, and incentives for families to stay together not strongly supporting and subsidising, as it would seem, in

if couples put a quarter of the energy and money that is expended in separation and divorce into sorting out their own personal problems or getting help for their delusions/denial they'd have it sorted in half the time. it just seems to be selfishness to me. divorce is a vicious cycle and we should counter it with education and counseling services from a young age in relationship building, and incentives for families to stay together not strongly supporting and subsidising, as it would seem, in

If couples put a quarter of the energy and money that is expended in separation and divorce into sorting out their own personal problems or getting help for their delusions/denial they'd have it sorted in half the time. it just seems to be selfishness to me. divorce is a vicious cycle and we should counter it with education and counseling services from a young age in relationship building, and incentives for families to stay together not strongly supporting and subsidising, as it would seem, in

incentives for parents to be single.